Long conversation with the daughter in the UK this morning via ‘chat’. A week or so ago she’d gone to her GP about a problem with one of the kids and after chatting to her had referred *her* to a psychiatrist. Ok I know it sounds ‘bad’ but there were real reasons for her to see the GP and real reasons why he felt it might help her to talk to a psych… neither of which I’m going into right now.
What is important is the result of this preliminary consultation. From his time with her, the psych determined she might well have both Asperger’s Syndrome and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (the underlying links take you to useful information about each condition).
Moving on… the psych said she was so obviously a ‘classic case’ that it was amazing nobody had picked it up before. Well I must admit we’ve all had suspicions she might have had this since in retrospect her behaviour as a child was a little ‘off the wall’ as a norm! At the very least it explains all sorts of strange behaviours, mannerisms and attitudes that we’ve noticed through the years.
Of course, whilst I’m sitting here typing I have to remind all and sundry that it’s almost certain this has come from my side of the family since my own personality development was blighted by much the same issues… and still *is* affected badly by it. Much as her mothers side of the family displayed strange behaviour through the years, it was very much ‘normal’ weirdness and I wouldn’t say they were certifiable… much as I’d have liked to see some of them locked up! 🙂
So. Question is once you realise you have this… what do you do about it? Basically it seems… almost nothing *can* be done. Each is a form of ‘high level’ autism and each is interlinked with the other. Right now there is little that is effective other than drug therapies to try to control the more florid aspects of the condition and in an adult the drugs have far less effect than in the young whose behaviour is less constrained by experience.
All that can be done in reality is to try to manage it on a day to day basis. For that the ‘sufferers need support and training to overcome the more socially debilitating aspects. Even at the daughters age there is still a good chance she can be helped. For myself… nope. I’m too old and set in my ways to go down that road. My only concession to it is to take Modafinil which I *still* maintain has done great things to wake me up a little. Nevertheless *I’m* looking forward to hearing what treatments he suggests and (if possible) applying them to my own life… who knows it might help!! 😀
Either way, at the very least you’d hope she can pick up tips to help her kids overcome the psychological barriers we’ve both come up against.
Of course inheritance is a big thing. Where most people have these little knick-knacks passed down as family heirlooms… we have our own little genetic peculiarities to hand over. I’ve handed it on to my two daughters… tho, luckily for him, not my son (as far as I know…!!) and my daughter has handed it on to *her* kids.
I know I can’t get rid of it, it’s a lifelong thing and it’s hard for other people to understand exactly what this is and how horrible it is to live with. In fact even now after being married 30 years, the wife *still* keeps telling me I’m just a hypochondriac despite my (constantly) displaying a large numbers of the specific markers!! Maybe we’re just abnormally annoying? 😀
Anyway, for me, since I can’t get rid of it, or do anything about it, the only real question I have is that since both my parents seem to have been excruciatingly normal (according to the markers indicated in the links above), where did *I* get it??